"Hey Vin,

I wanted to write to you because of you expertise on this issue... I want to ask you if how to deal with friends that want to hold me back. Like I go out and try to do the stuff getting to know them and approaching like I care about others and it works great! My friends though are always very drunk and want to act stupid joking that I think I'm a player guy and that I talk to my girls out of my league. I know it's just teasing but I don't know think that it helps my game.....

So what do I do with these guys? They are really cramping my style and I think I have that I have a very high potential to get really the hottest girls. To make matters worse I don't drink very much anymore because it hurt my game also I'm not in a joking mood as much as my friends and this hold me back to so I have to get my state so that I don't care about them.

Can you help PLEAASE!

JM (New York)"

It's funny - I get emails like this all the time. At first I thought it was a small issue that only a handful of guys had to deal with.

If this applies to you, let me say right now, I apologize on being so late to address this issue.

Let me tell you something about me. I have a handful of amazing friends, people I consider to be like brothers (and sisters) to me.

I only associate with POSITIVE PEOPLE. My friends are all the kind of people that are not only ACCEPTING, but ENCOURAGING of me when I am trying to better myself.

I've always been this way. I must admit, this is one area of my life that I got right from the very start.

Maybe part of that is because I was very sensitive when I was younger, and just couldn't handle the macho-teasing the other guys did to each other. I was more on the nerdy side in school.

But it's funny...Nowadays me and my friends all support on each other and joke around about each other's failures.

But it's because there's an underlying love and respect among us. I can tell when a good friend of mine is truly passionate about a goal, and in that case, I will always support him or her.

And negative people - I have nothing to say about them, or to them. Literally. I don't deal with that crap. Out of sight, out of mind.

If I end up having to deal with a negative person, I see them as standing in an imaginary bubble of brown manure.

I know, that's gross...but that's how I deal with them - the same way I deal with cleaning up after a dog. Handle it quickly, try not to get your hands dirty, and move on to something better.

Because negavite people are like sick people. If you let them get to close and "touch" you emotionally, you will only suffer.

As Brian says, "KIM"' Keep It Moving.

Drop the dead weight. If these people want to hold you back, you're better off solo. Most people keep negative friends because they are scared to be on their own - they fear loneliness.

It's understandable, but I say toughen up, get out there and meet some better friends!

If you can approach the most beautiful women, you can approach anyone. If you can escalate with the most beautiful women, you can create a friendship with ANYONE.

You need the right toolbelt if you want to make great new friends,. It is how you think that makes your social success.

Being attractive to women depends on the same principles as being attractive IN GENERAL.