Millions of married people dream of having an affair. The biggest question in the world of married dating is "where do I begin?" You want to date a person who is already in a relationship-and you're getting signs that they're interested...but in your mind they are off limits, right?

Wrong. Married dating can be fun and exciting if both parties agree upon the terms of the affair. The best way to have an affair is to assess whether the person of interest has mutual feelings for you. If they do, then it's officially fair game.

It doesn't matter if the one you want is in a relationship! If they are throwing it down, feel free to pick it up. I'll give you an example of why this is a good idea. A few months ago I went to New York and was planning on visiting an old fling while I was there. I knew she was in a relationship- but I still wanted to see her. We go out and immediately the chemistry picks up where it left off. I made the decision to treat her as though she were single and she ate right out of my hand. Why? Because man, if a girl is into you and gives you the signs that she could be yours (even if it's only for the night), then give her what she wants.

Usually she's in an unhappy relationship and her boyfriend/husband doesn't make her feel attractive, so she goes out and flirts around to get that attention. Guess what? Someone is going to give it to her; it may as well be YOU. Married dating is only as hard as you make it. Having an affair is successful only when you treat the woman like she is single! Don't mention their significant other at all. This takes them out of the mood and will make them feel guilt and have second thought. They may even suspect that you will tell people they are cheating. Keep the conversation light and fun like you're on a date-and remember to do playful arm touches, thumb wars, etc. to get the physical chemistry started…

Hooking up with someone in a long-term relationship can have its benefits. Usually, the person will only be looking for sex on the side, leaving you free to date other people. If you can manage to not get your heart involved you'll be in an ideal situation. If however, you are one of the many people out there who gets attached after sex, best to skip the affair- or you may end up with a black eye from the boyfriend…

Moral of the story: Treat every woman as though she were single until told otherwise.