As a woman i was always attracted to intellectually smart men. You tell me about science, politics and discuss any intelligent subject and i couldn't hide my admiration. It was what attracted me to this stern looking, smart non-romantic men. I am no friend to stupidity or ignorance and so anybody who taught me something new every moment had all my attention. It was not only my attention they got but something more than liking. I am honest so i will tell you i loved them. It was not a conscious decision as you might think. It was a kind of gravitation pull this smart guys had for me. In my dating life i have rubbed shoulders with graduates, master holders and people who had a couple of titles attached to their names.

Now i have made up my mind that i am giving up smart non-romantic men. I have analyzed the dating scene and unless you want to lock yourself from the fun and exciting world, you are not going places with this brainy fellows. I want to follow my intuition and date with my heart but not with my head as i have always done. When you use your head, the man's appeal is more in his resume than his character as a person. I didn't sit to think about how compatible we were provided the education system proved the guy had something above between his ears. The information my subject of desire offered added so much to the love equation. It didn't matter to me whether he had money. Doesn't brains and time translate to money anyway? Whatever, provided he showed some potential of turning into be a multimillionaire sometime in the future.

My radical departure from dating lovely and intelligent men is a shock to my system. I recently had an affair with a bright man who had great insight in world politics, excelled in all he laid his hands on but he was not romantic in any way. He could hardly read emotions. He was the type that pulls away when a lady shows interest. Most intellectuals are somehow unfit to date since they have very little capability to discuss emotions. Intellect and compassion are always parallel as i gathered from his comments when i questioned his behavior. They are arrogant and i do not need that in my relationship. Smart non-romantic men might be attractive but think twice before you are enslaved in insensitivity.

Relationships are built out of emotions. If only one person is emotional, the relationship ends up being a one way traffic. In relationships with smart non-romantic men, you are putting your heart at risk. It is your heart that is involved. The occasional brain check is a rare thing as we all know that love is a confusing feeling that cannot be described and so i won't try. I concentrated on looks but now i realize that they should be at the the bottom of my checklist. In our society today, we have been made to believe that brilliance is a sure way to success. You can have a good job, a good public image but you are socially lousy. The not-so-intelligent guy is very sensitive, romantic and a good life partner.


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